March 10, 2010   24 Adar 5770
Congregation Or Ami - Calabasas, CA
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Special Needs Families and Individuals: No One Is Welcomed More at Or Ami than You  

My house shall be a house of prayer for all peoples. (Isaiah 56:7)

No one is more welcome at Congregation Or Ami than you!

Access to Judaism for families and children with special needs has been a hallmark of Congregation Or Ami since Rabbi Paul Kipnes first joined our Brandon Kaplan, special needs studentcongregation in our second year of existence. The first policy he asked to be put in place was clear and simple:

"Any child of a member who works to the best of his/her ability has the right to a Jewish educational experience. Also, any child of a member who works to the best of his/her ability has the right and privilege to become a Bar/Bat Mitzvah at Congregation Or Ami."

Today, access involves such things as individualized bar and bat mitzvah training for children with special needs, support group for parents of children with special needs, large-print prayer books, an Education Intern who acts a liaison for special needs families within the Mishpacha program, and increasing sensitivity to the scope of needs within each community.

In conjunction with the Union for Reform Judaism's Department of Jewish Family Concerns and the Jewish Federation/Valley Alliance's Mercaz Center (one-stop program for Jewish families with children with special needs and developmental disabilities), Congregation Or Ami strives to create and enhance inclusive environments and accessible spaces to ensure that everyone is included. Every congregant has a right to a rich Jewish life in a welcoming environment.

Many families with children who have special needs or challenges struggle to find a home in the Jewish community. We say: you are not alone. Congregation Or Ami, our Rabbi Paul Kipnes and Cantor Doug Cotler and our Reform Jewish movement, welcome you. Congregation Or Ami is already proud to be a home congregation for many individuals and families with special needs, and we welcome you to share in the warmth of our community. We invite you to begin a conversation with Rabbi Kipnes to share your hopes or questions about being a family with special needs at Or Ami.

You may be wondering about…

Bar/Bat Mitzvah Services : Because you have been blessed with this child, we at Or Ami strive to ensure that the Bar/Bat Mitzvah experience is welcoming to all members of your family. Your child will have a REAL Bar/Bat Mitzvah service! Rabbi Kipnes, Cantor Cotler and our B'nai Mitzvah Teacher Diane Townsend work with each family to create an individualized learning process and a service which takes advantage of your child's unique gifts. You all will participate fully in the service, from the ceremony of passing Torah down through the generations to standing up at the Torah during the aliyah (Torah blessing) to the opportunity to bless your child. Our creativity allows your child to shine during your simcha (joyous moment). We invite you to begin a conversation with Rabbi Kipnes about your family’s questions about Bar/Bat Mitzvah.

Educating Children : Families with children with special needs may be especially interested in our Mishpacha Family Alternative Learning Program. (Mishpacha means "family" in Hebrew.) An alternative to our wonderful Monday-Wednesday drop-off Religious School, our Mishpacha program allows parents and children to study together twice monthly on Sunday mornings. Often adults spend time alone with Rabbi Kipnes while children learn in multi-grade groupings with our fine faculty. Everyone learns the same material at age-appropriate levels. Then parents and children interact through projects, games, trials and round robin activities to explore the beauty of Judaism. This program is especially helpful for families with a child with special needs as it allows for greater individualized attention and the presence of a parent onsite ensures that your child has the additional support he/she needs to find success. Additionally, one of our Mishpacha Coordinators will call you before each session to review the day's plan, to determine how best your child's needs are accomodated, and, if necessary, to come up with suggestions of how the lesson plan can be altered to meet your child's needs. We invite you to learn more about Mishpacha program or email our Mishpacha Coordinators Laura Siegel and Rebekah Stern. You may also want to learn about our Religious School and/or our Temple Teen Nights and/or email our Principal Michal Rozenberg-Yalovsky.

Support Group for Parents with Children with Special Needs : Gathering once or twice a month, this group brings parents together to share ideas, resources and support related to raising a child with special needs. Supervised childcare provides you with peace of mind as your child is taken care of elsewhere in the synagogue. You can sit back, find support, gather resources, and enjoy the blessing of being part of a Jewish community that "gets it!" We invite you to begin a conversation with Michael Kaplan (Or Ami past president and support group founder) to learn more about the Support Group.

Learning More about Judaism : Without pressure, we invite you (whether you are Jewish or not) to enjoy our programs and classes. Adult learning activities occur throughout the year and include weekly study sessions, monthly brunches or book groups, evening programs and Shabbat seminars. We invite you to learn more about upcoming Adult learning opportunities or to email Michal Rozenberg-Yalovsky who coordinates our Adult Learning.

SUPPORT GROUP FOR PARENTS WITH KIDS WITH SPECIAL NEEDS  

The Or Ami Center for Jewish Parenting Support Group meets twice a month, mainly on Sunday mornings 10:00 – 11:30 am.

Some meetings will be on Thursday evenings at 7:00 pm. Thursday meetings held in collaboration with the K.E.N. Project.

The group offers support and valuable information to parents, relatives and others who support children with special needs.

Child care is available on Sunday mornings.

For more information click here.

 

God's Gift in an Unexpected Package, by Michael Kaplan  

On February 9, 1994 my son, Brandon, was born. Dina and I immediately recognized that something was different about this child, as he had a visible disability. Within an hour the pediatrician walked into Dina’s hospital room and told us that there was a problem with the baby. I listened as he described Brandon’s rocker bottom feet, short neck, wide set eyes and a simian crease on his hand. Through the fog that just settled upon us, Dina and I observed a parade of specialists who examined Brandon, each radiated an aura of doom and gloom, and each gave us the comforting three word report, “I don’t know.”

Months later, as the High Holy Days approached I was prepared to go the synagogue to ask God why he did this to us. Why did he take a child, who was supposed to be perfect, and burden him – and us – with so many disabilities?

But then a very pivotal event happened at the Kaplan household. I awoke one morning and looked up at Dina’s smiling face. Dina looked at me and said “Michael, I finally realized that Brandon didn’t happen to us. Brandon happened for us.”   Read more

Resources for Families with Special Needs  

In case you were interested in more...

Experiences with Special Needs at Or Ami  
Brandon Kaplan becomes a Bar Mitzvah at Congregation Or Ami, overcoming special needs and disability, to read from Torah and become a Bar Mitzvah.
On Friday, April 18, 2008. The service is cosponsored by the Or Ami Center for Jewish Parenting and the KEN Project.
Rabbi Kipnes' blog - Or Ami I? - records special moments with special children.
A collection of texts which defines and explains Or Ami’s warm welcome for people and families with special needs
Every Child is Created in God's Image  

Rabbi Paul Kipnes teaches that "There is a sense that children with special needs, physically, emotionally, mentally, don't have a place in the synagogue, in the Jewish community. That's just not true, particularly here at Or Ami. We have celebrated B'nai Mitzvah services with children with autism, emotional developmental problems, intense dyslexia, Tourette's syndrome... The Torah and Judaism are available for all of us."

Or Ami emphasizes that no matter what a child's needs are, it's never a question of if a child can become a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, it's when the ceremony will take place.

Rabbi Kipnes explains, "With special needs children, there are two values being played out, simultaneously.  Working with Brandon Kaplan, for instance, we saw that Brandon is a kid like any other kid created in the image of God, worthy of love.  But Brandon is also a special kid and there is an honor and joy to the congregation that he participates to the fullness of his abilities. So he's normal and special, but here's the secret: so is every other kid."

Brandon Kaplan Honorary Special Needs Fund  

To celebrate the awesome experience when our member Brandon became a Bar Mitzvah, we have established the Brandon Kaplan Honoray Special Needs Fund of Congregation Or Ami. The Fund serves to:

  • Train or subsidize teachers/aides to assist such students in educationally-sound ways;
  • Support the training of an HUC Education Intern who will have special responsibility within Mishpacha to work with special needs children, families and teachers;
  • Develop or expand educational programming experiences for special needs children/families including:
    • Support Group for Parents of Children with Special Needs (expand to twice monthly, with facilitation and trained child care)
    • Creation of IEP-like Independent Study Plans (which adjust Religious School or Mishpacha goals and/or create new tutoring options)
    • Differential Bar/Bat Mitzvah training (to tailor our program to needs of individual special needs students)
    • Special Needs Shabbat (honoring/supporting parents of children with special needs and highlighting Or Ami’s commitments)
  • Provide dues subsidies to such families to make membership attainable, in keeping with Or Ami’s “Open Door” policy (that every Jewish individual/family who so desires may become a member without regards to their ability to pay);

Click here to find out how to make a donation to the Brandon Kaplan Honorary Special Needs fund.
You may also open a discussion with Rabbi Kipnes about how to offer family foundation support to the Fund.


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